Prepare For Launch: Question #26
Question:
What does the bible say about masturbation?
Answer:
If you look in Scripture, the word masturbation is nowhere to be found. It’s tough to definitively discuss this issue, since Jesus never specifically talked about it.
Now, I would contend that masturbation is a sin when looking at the totality of scripture. First, let’s check out Matthew 5:30 (NIV) “And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.” I reckon there should be a whole slew of people in this world without their right hand.
While the act of masturbation is not specifically addressed by Scripture, you will find that the main trigger of masturbation is mentioned in Scripture. God despises lust, and that is one of the underlying triggers in someone’s struggle with masturbation. In this lust, one actually commits adultery in their heart (Matthew 5:27-28). Lust is an overwhelming thing. From a personal vantage point, I was sinking in lust/sexual sin for years before I submitted to God and He pulled me out of the wreckage. It’s pull is intense.
So, lust is a huge part of why masturbation is a sin, but is the act itself a sin? Some say no, not at all. I’m not so sure that is true. Masturbation is a selfish act to bring one’s self pleasure on their time table, that instant. It’s automatic gratification. But sexual pleasure is to be shared between a man and woman to give one’s self to the other- selflessly (Ephesians 5:25-32). By being alone, bringing pleasure to yourself without a spouse, your deviating from God’s design.
So, what about if you are masturbating to not have sex? Is that wrong? Masturbation is a substitute for a spouse, any person who masturbates knows that they need/want a spouse, this is natural. Masturbation shows a person they are alone and need a partner. God says ‘that it is not good for the man to dwell alone’ (Gen 2:18), therefore he created a wife for Adam. Paul says to singles and widows “if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” (1 Cor 7:9). The problem in our age is that it is so difficult for a man to find a Christian wife, and for a woman it is so difficult to find a Christian husband. Further, there are other poor substitutes out there, pornography, sex toys, paid escorts, etc.- these are a lot easier to find than to find a partner. These give temporary relief to our ‘alone-ness’, but are not the answer. However, Paul’s advice to the Corinthian church, who also lived in an immoral society just like we do, was that people should marry rather than indulge in sexual immorality (1 Cor 7:2). It is better to marry than to be consumed by masturbation or other substitutes.
One issue with masturbation as well as sexual immorality is self-control.
(1 Cor 7:8-9 NIV) Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
(1 Th 4:3-7 NIV) It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.
(Titus 2:6 NIV) Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled.
Self-control is a fruit of the spirit (Gal 5:23), however fruit takes time to grow. Our sexual appetite is strong and for most people is difficult to tame. We should also remember that marriage was one of God’s pre-fall ordinances (Gen 2:24). It is natural to marry even in a perfect world, but now in our immoral world marriage also serves to keep us from immorality (Paul’s argument in 1 Cor 7:2).
(1 Cor 7:2 NIV) But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.
Marriage is not just a solution to sexual immorality, it is also God’s plan to end loneliness, provide companionship, provide a helper, mutual support, children, joy etc, etc. Most men who have known a woman will say: “she is beautiful”, “she sees things differently to me”, “I need her”, “she sees my weaknesses”, “she supports me” (add your own experiences).
(Prov 18:22 NIV) He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.
Regardless if it’s masturbation, pornography, prostitution, etc. Remember one thing if nothing else… God forgives you. God sent his Son to die for you. God sent his Son whom he loves to suffer pain and shame on the cross. The truth is that Jesus died for sinners not for the healthy but for the sick. Jesus still calls sinners to repentance. Yes the gospel is that God even forgives YOU.
(Luke 5:31-32 NIV) Jesus answered them, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.”
(Luke 15:30-32 NIV) But when this son of yours who has squandered your property with prostitutes comes home, you kill the fattened calf for him!’ “‘My son,’ the father said, ‘you are always with me, and everything I have is yours. But we had to celebrate and be glad, because this brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’”
The good news of the gospel is that Jesus died for real men and woman who have sinned, just like you and me. We have all fallen short of God’s standards. Today is the day we can turn from that and draw near to God, accept His love, submit to Him in Christian baptism, and live a life worthy of His name as we are filled with His Spirit.
(excerpts taken from article by RK Taylor)




